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Important advice about your Tango embrace

Everybody wants to have a great embrace.

The problem is that 97% of the teachers do not explain a very fine point that allows the best dancers to create those unforgettable embraces.

OK, I pulled this number out of thin air.

But before we get deep into what it takes to create a remarkable embrace, let me give you a fast one:

What it takes to destroy an embrace.

Sometimes you can do everything right, and one thing wrong, and the beautiful feeling is gone.

And you can do maaannnyyy things wrong.

Some of them are easy to correct, some not.

Here is an easy one:

If your head is touching her head, a small miscommunication can lead to banging hard each other’s heads.

But it’s nice to touch your heads.

It feels like you are increasing your proximity.

The solution is simple:

Adjust your head so that you touch her with the soft part of your cheek, not the bone.

This way, even if you bang a bit, it won’t hurt and the impact will be less.

By the way, you can find a lot more techniques and advice on how to create an embrace that followers love, if you follow the Curious Tanguero Advanced.

Alrighty, now let’s get to the hard one.

A warning: this advice is not easy to put into action.
It takes time for it to create roots.
But once it does…

Please read this sentence slowly:

If your embrace is not free to embrace, then you are not giving your best possible embrace.

Now read the second sentence slowly:

If your embrace is not free to embrace, then you are not giving your best possible embrace.

Can you find the difference between the first sentence and the second?

Can you?

The truth is there is no difference, but it is a weird sentence, so I wanted you to be focused.

What does this sentence mean?

Well, most teachers will tell you that in tango we communicate through the embrace.

The function of the embrace, they tell you, is to communicate your intention.

Although there is some truth to that, and it can be true depending on the interpretation, it creates a big issue:

You keep practising your embrace as a way to communicate intention, instead of practising it as a way to communicate emotion.

Try to remember what percentage of your practice time you focus on communicating intention through the embrace.

I bet it’s most of the time.

But there is a second huge problem:

When you overload your embrace with the task of communicating intention, it’s hard to focus on communicating emotion.

I received lots of advice on how to improve my embrace.

If I can only pass one to you is this:

Learn what you need to learn in order to be able to let your embrace be free to hug, nurture, protect, take care.


Every time you practice something, ask yourself if it helps you free the embrace from responsibilities.

What can the rest of the body do (your back, your hands, your hips) to remove responsibility from the embrace?

What do you need to develop to free your embrace?

The freer your embrace is from responsibilities, the more you can focus on embracing.
Now, it took me years to realise that, and it takes more years to put it into action.
There are more ways to accelerate this that you can find in the Curious Tanguero Advanced, but for now:

For the next practice sessions or even milongas ask yourself:

How can I free my embrace from responsibility?


Stay curious,
The Curious Tanguero